I had to join other women to season chicken, peel potatoes, wash pepper and do other things in preparation for our well planned Christmas party that year.

The team work had to be spiced with lots of gist that was based on several topics ranging from fashion, marriage, children and so many other things that interest women.

I guess everyone can imagine what that small circle of women looked like. We were all excited as we jumped from one discussion to the other but  after a while I noticed that we continued to dwell on the topic SEX for so long; lest I forget, all are married women but one.

Several discussions with various women has earned me the conclusion that sexual intercourse cease to be exciting  for some time after childbirth; I also found that if care is not taken, it can go from bad to worse.

There are several reasons for this; trust me, they are valid. This topic has different angles to it but today, I want to talk about us (women) and move to other parts later.

It cannot be overemphasized that child birth can scatter the settings of the whole female anatomy talk more of the vagina; which is the action point. For women who had vagina birth, sex can be really uninteresting to say the least. On the other hand, the women who go through C.S to have their babies also have their stories to tell.

For first time mothers, it is an experience that is hardly talked about.

So, I met this lady at a supermarket, she looked really good but she had this look on her face that gave her away as confused and worried at the same time. I guess for standing next to her and admiring her so much, she must have caught the likeness vibe from me. Without obvious hesitation, she tapped me and said, “If you don’t mind, which should I pick” dangling two brands of female lubricants before me; before I gave an answer, she had pulled me stylishly to the corner of the supermarket where she got them from.

This is another level, kind of gist for me as it felt really strange when the lady decided to pour out everything, or well maybe not all, about her sex life with her husband on me right there. It felt like she desperately needed to just talk. She told me all I did not need to know but I kind of understood what she was going through anyway. She continued, “my baby is three months today and I think my husband is tired already because since my baby, it has been war, I always need more time to get in the mood; in fact, it is painful, in short (nne) no interest at all again and my husband is not getting it.”

In my mind I was like, somebody cannot even come and shop in peace again ni. What is war? Which mood? What is painful? Interest in what? This is part of the problem. Even married women that are licensed to have sex find it difficult to discuss it properly sometimes even within themselves. I don’t think I am courageous enough to talk to a supermarket stranger, so kudos to her.

There are so many similar stories like that I have heard apart from my own experience. There is a friend who…….