MUCH ADO ABOUT SOMETHING

I want more sex from my husband is rather unpopular. I wish my husband can last longer than what I have right now. I just want to be more satisfied.

During the service some Sundays ago at the choir’s corner; don’t ask why that time because I don’t know myself. I and my seat partner, a fellow alto singer just found ourselves discussing and before we know what was going on, the service was already about to end.

Now this is a strange behavior but well, I guess we all behave strangely sometimes.

 

The starting topic was about married women and how we can just be nonchalant about ourselves even when our men are not relenting when it comes to their appearances. So a couple of women and their husbands who stood across us triggered it and we couldn’t just understand the contrast. I mean, the men were looking so sharp in their well put together outfits and then their wives appeared the exact opposite. I am almost sure it bothered others that were around but alas, we react to things differently… women; we must try, it is not easy but it is worth it.

Could this be the reason men are less attracted to their wives these days?

In a bid to answer this question, our discussion drifted to how many women have started complaining about their husbands not initiating sex and not wanting to even have sex with them again. Our chatting continued in an enlightening manner for me that I decided to gather more information on the subject matter by asking other women who will be open enough to answer me.

I found out not too long that this problem has been there for a while now. A big problem that has left a lot of married women unhappy. During my time out with other women, I heard statements like, “my husband is no longer attracted to me”, “I believe he must have girlfriends outside” one particular interesting woman said,” my toys come in handy, I know how to make myself happy”. So many statements that had me puzzled.

I tried to keep a facial expression that is not suggestive of anything. Oh, how I tried.

 

Then I began to ask a lot of other questions like:

·       Has he always been like that?

·       Did he change?

·       Did you change to suddenly wanting more?

·       Do you suspect an affair with other women?

My curiosity will not kill me o

because I asked these questions and to my surprise I got real responses from various women. This topic is rather sensitive for women to discuss but I realized that older women preferred to laugh the questions off and just say nothing. Some answered saying, “oh I have this friend…”

“Ha, my cousin’s husband started behaving funny o” and all sorts. I understand how we don’t want to be seen as suffering in our marriages. Most of them were actually talking about themselves.

The answers I got from these women are popular and cliché

·       He was more into me years back when we got married.

·       He changed when we began to have kids

·       No, I didn’t change

·       I know he has girlfriends/ he is always tired/ full of excuses

 So what next… what should I do

Straight to the men’s corner because I needed to know what they think about it. The facts I gathered from the men are SOMETHING.

 

I'm coming.....................................................................................................................