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As I was saying before my little break. I have this friend who had a tear during the birth of her cute little girl and was stitched back properly according to her; the problem for her is that she no longer feels perfect. Her vagina now has a scar and it’s not looking the same. You would think the problem must be that her husband is complaining or has said something that is causing the insecurity. I asked if her husband has ever complained or made any comment about it she said no, but she believes that he doesn’t want her to feel bad so he is silent about it. This is her own reason for being totally unwilling when it comes to sex. Then there is this writer, who was not even interested, had lost interest completely, has no vagina issues because of the C-section done, has a very understanding man; but for her, sex was a big NO. It became a real struggle and marriage began to shake. Sometimes she tries to please her man but alas, it is with no joy.   After several mont...

I had to join other women to season chicken, peel potatoes, wash pepper and do other things in preparation for our well planned Christmas party that year. The team work had to be spiced with lots of gist that was based on several topics ranging from fashion, marriage, children and so many other things that interest women. I guess everyone can imagine what that small circle of women looked like. We were all excited as we jumped from one discussion to the other but   after a while I noticed that we continued to dwell on the topic SEX for so long; lest I forget, all are married women but one. Several discussions with various women has earned me the conclusion that sexual intercourse cease to be exciting   for some time after childbirth; I also found that if care is not taken, it can go from bad to worse. There are several reasons for this; trust me, they are valid. This topic has different angles to it but today, I want to talk about us (women) and move to ...

I can be mischievous sometimes. Don’t mind me. The other day, a dear friend strolled in to my space feeling so fly with her new hairdo which I really admired. Long and very neat looking braids she had but then her hairline had travelled very far away from her fore head. I did not let it go through my mind alone; for the love and fun of it, I said ‘Iya eko’ . Iya eko is a yoruba term often used to qualify women with obvious receding hairlines. We laughed so hard as she gave me several reasons for it. She quickly told me about her mother’s advice to stop taking her oily hands to rub her own hair after oiling her children’s hair as it will continue to make her loose her hair. In other words, her children will take all of her hair if she does not stop. I had heard that before and so I was like wow! People actually believe this? It was a funny time with my friend and while she rushed off, I continued to ponder about the connection of children and their mum’s ha...

On a thanksgiving Sunday in my church, a couple gave their testimony on how they had a normal delivery (vagina birth) without any help from the doctors as they had been advised previously to keep open minds in case they might have to do a caesarian section because of the complications they were managing at that time. I was really happy and rejoiced with them although, the man didn’t forget to chip in how they rebuked the devil to counter the doctor’s suggestion. He made it look like C.S is a form of affliction. I became worried for the other women in the congregation who will be needing C.S in the future but have been affected by his harmless remark. In my opinion, C.S is no curse but an intervention. Many women are living and are healthy with their babies because they had this intervention done on time. So many women have died and are still dying because they think it’s a form of affliction and they begin to think less of themselves. Some women even say no to C.S fo...